Never say "Because I'm the Mother" or "Because I'm the Father." The more said, the less creditability the children believes from their parents. Children learns. Explain the reasons.
No hitting and no spanking. The acceptable physical contact are hugs, kisses, holding hands in the park, and dancing to Elvis Presley's Burning Love.
Know the trends. Kermit the Frog is green, Barney is a purple dinosaur, Angelica is four years old, and Pikachu is a yellow mouse. If parents know the Major League Baseball Rosters and who married who and who divorced who, there is no excuse to not know Sponge Bob Square Pants.
Be patient. It takes 18 years for children to become adults. Parents, there is plenty of time to raise children. Doogie Hauser, M.D. children are very, very rare. Regardless, lessons on life need to be taught and their questions answered.
Teach the little things. Knowledge equips the children to learn and have an active life ahead. Start with telling time, fold the clothes, count from 1 to 20, say thank you, brush their teeth, know the home phone number, share, make the bed, eat properly to grow healthy and to become smart, drink water, and put things away when done.
Wonder with the children. They love new things, new sights, and anything interesting. Look, there's a butterfly. When they run, hold hands and run with them.
Never forget to say "Good Morning," "Good Afternoon," and "Good Night, Sweet Dreams."
Have a sense of humor. Situation: The child spills milk. Don't say, "Look at the mess you made. It's all over the floor. Don't do it again!" Rather, say, "Well, at least the entire milk carton was not spilled. Ha, Ha. I grab the towels, you pick up the milk carton, and lets clean the mess together."
Top 30 Blogs From Innovating Common Knowledge Blog
Here is my 300th blog from Innovating Common Knowledge. I declared myself lost on Tue Sep 2, 2008. I list my top 30 blogs to remember who I am. I forgot the real Raymond Mar-the guy who innovates his life, a patient person, a person everyone enjoys my company, a charming gentleman, modest, and a "there he is" person.
The 300th blog reminds me to act, behave, think, and portray myself as a grown up man. It's time to relearn the lessons I learned. It's time recall the meaning of Innovating Infinitely. It's time to grow up.
Here are the top 30 blogs sorted by date latest to earliest. The blogs include the title, date, wisdom gained, and an excerpt. Click on the title for the entire blog.
Wisdom Gained: Never take anything and anyone for granted.
Excerpt: Never [take] anyone or anything for granted. Most of my successes and most of the people in my life I have taken for granted. I sincerely apologize ^^
I do a great job going from point A to point B when it comes to meeting new people, keeping my relations with family and friends, learning new hobbies and new interests, and accomplishing my assignments, responsibilities, and personal projects. I fail to continue to strengthen myself, to innovate my skills and knowledge, improve my relations, and to embrace change in my life (i.e., go with the flow).
Continue finding and accomplishing point C, point D, point E, point F, point G, and so on. Never stop innovating life! Never take life for granted!
Excerpt: My gut, my intuition, my instinct takes over me when I'm in fear or when I don't know what I'm doing. Almost all of my instances and situations I'm scared or I'm clueless my gut feeling takes control of my thinking, my actions, my movements, and my speech. Sometimes I'm correct and sometimes I'm incorrect.
I consciously realized yesterday my gut feeling has saved my ass many times, and I never realized most of the time. I just live life without thinking my actions and my gut feeling has taken control of my life for better or for worse.
I believe my way of going through my life is my gut feeling. There is a well known saying "Trust your gut feeling." Today, I'm giving maximum trust to my gut feeling.
Wisdom Gained: Continue to live life finding what you want to do.
Excerpt: I believe there is always a better life. One may see a husband, wife, and their two kids walking in the park smiling happily. Most people think they're having the best time of their lives. Who knows, perhaps, the [husband or the] wife is thinking in the back of [the] head, "This life stinks and I want more?" I walk around my company campus, I see different people when I shop, I see families when I watch a movie or walk in the park, I think either they're having a [content] life or they're having a good life and want a better life.
I admit I ask myself the question quite a few times. Who [has] not ask themselves the question? If you have not ask yourself the question, then ask yourself the question and answer honestly? My answers vary. One day I have a different answer. Another day, another different answer. Timing is everything.
Wisdom Gained: The video does a better job explaining what I learned. Watch it!
Excerpt: Check out the video "Underground", a short film by Kristen Dehnert & Aimee Lagos. The film is 11 minutes. Continue to watch after the credits for the lesson ^__^ Enjoy. If you choose to watch the video at Yahoo website, click the link
Wisdom Gained: Remember to learn from you failures as well as your successes.
Excerpt: One of the ways to be successful is to model from the successful people in business, entertainment, government, and sports. Another way to be successful is to learn from the successful people's failures. In Bill Gates' book "Business @ The Speed Of Thought," Gates devoted half of a chapter on failures. He shared his failed businesses and what he learned from the failures. Observe your daily life and take note how other people live their lives, how businesses conduct daily operations, and how you live your life. Find your failures and learn from them. (And be aware of your successes and innovate your successes.)
Wisdom Gained: It takes patience to learn who a person is for long-term family, friend, business, and romantic relationships.
Excerpt: Nobody can know too many people. Always meet people and know many people. If the people you're going to meet are going to be long lasting relationships whether it's business, friends, companions, partners, acquaintances, or personal, it's going to happen in time. Be patient. It takes time to develop, earn, and strengthen relationships. The relationship grows when you and your group participates in more events such as working on projects, taking a trip, attending a concert, playing poker, and eating at a restaurant which results in the more everyone knows each other a little at a time. Nobody is going to tell someone or a group of people his or her life history in one social event or one instance. It takes months, even years, to truly know a person or people. True and long lasting relationships say, "I know *insert name(s)* for X years."
Wisdom Gained: Do something else to take your mind off something you hate.
Excerpt: Don't sweat the small stuff. If something happens and it's not going to matter one year later, then forget about it. If someone cuts you off driving in the freeway, forget it. If you spilled milk, clean it up, and forget it. If you didn't win a contest, forget it. If a stranger said something insulting, forget it. Find something else to be productive. When you accomplish something else, you feel good and the bad feelings from the hated something or hated someone is forgotten.
Wisdom Gained: Meet new people and make new friends continuously.
Excerpt: My 12 year mistake was I failed to continuously meet new people and make new friends. In September 2004, I attended an anime convention. I wore a costume for the first time and participated in a gathering where I met people. The event was a wake up call.
Nobody can ever have too many friends. It's a small world. Since 2004 when I started to meet new people, some of the new people I met knew others and those others I met them at another event. It's the circle of friends. My circles are overlapping and I'm creating new circles. I'm re-learning how to meet new people, to make new friends, and to be a popular person. A popular person is not being the "Big Person On Campus." A popular person is a person who is being liked. If you want to be liked, then be helpful to others, present yourself with positive character, possess the charming attitude, influence others to be better and to take the next step forward, be a good listener, smile--in short, have a friendly personality. You're not going to make new friends every time you meet new people in a social instance; however, it's a small world and you may see them in the future for which you may become friends at a later date.
Who you know is more important that what you know. Schools fail to teach the lesson.
Excerpt: When I feel lonely, I want to be alone. Take a break from work, take a break from hanging out with family and friends, and take a break from your daily routine. Turn yourself off from the outside, take a breath, and think about your present.
There is a benefit to the lonely feeling. The lonely feeling assures the world revolves around nobody. The world is part of us and we are part of the world. Nobody is the whole entire world. If a person feels happy, sad, angry, depressed, or lonely, the world goes on. The sun rises and sets everyday. If anything good or anything bad happens, the world goes on.
Wisdom Gained: You must earn what you want in life.
Excerpt: There is a lesson in life school[s] and college failed to teach me. My schools and college earned an F for failing to teach me the word "earn." Life doesn't give you your life on a silver platter. You must earn whatever you want, your desires, and your goals. If you want to be a friend, you must earn their friendship and their respect. If you want your special person in your life to be with your for the rest of your life, you must earn their love.
Successes must be earned. Everyone must work and earn. Work and earn. Get up from the couch. Get up from the computer. Go out and earn your life. Want a new job? Earn it. Want to meet new people and find new friends? Earn them. Want to buy your dream car? Go earn it. Want to get promoted? Earn it. Want your children to respect you and trust you? Earn them. Want to be a starter in football? Earn it. Want to influence others and be a leader? Earn them. Want to be part of an elite group? You must earn the group's respect and their acceptance. Anything you do, any goals, any desires, any achievements, any wants, you must earn it.
Excerpt: You are responsible for yourself. At Cisco, I talked to a few co-workers, and many of them worked at Cisco less than six months. They told me nobody is going to sit down and teach you. You must learn it yourself. You are given an assignment, here are the guidelines, now do it.
Wisdom Gained: Schools have summer vacations; life doesn't have summer vacations.
Excerpt: Most of today's USA public schools year starts in September and ends in June. June to August is summer vacation. Schools have endings and college have endings. The ultimate ending is graduation. Unfortunately, schools following the June to August summer vacation schedule create a false sense of what life is about. Life doesn't have two and a half months summer vacations. Life doesn't give you an ending. You must work on your ending. If you want a bright ending, then get up the couch and create action.
Wisdom Gained: Have courage to say goodbye to anything precious.
Excerpt: In our lives, we cherish many people, places, and things. Only a few are cherished forever in our lives. For the rest, have the courage to release the cherish and move forward in life.
As time moves forward, we encounter new people, new places, and new items. There is a moment where we must make a choice to keep an existing cherish or choose a new cherish. And sometimes we must say goodbye to a cherish and find a new cherish to continue living.
Wisdom Gained: First years, first impressions, first go-around, and first successes are equally important as second years, second impressions, second go-around, and second successes.
Excerpt: The second year, the second go around, the sophomore year determines how good someone or something is. My first year at my present company gave me the wrong impression how friendly my company was-the company began going downhill in terms of workplace morale. Some people I met I thought they were cool people at first-the more I knew them, the more I realized they were jerks. And my laptop worked without problems even though other people reported problems on my model in their first year of use-so far so good in the second year ^_^
When everything is going smoothly in the first year taking classes at high school, the first year working in a company, the first year in a serious relationship, the first year driving a new car, whatever first year, the second year determines how good it is. In the first year, some people tend to have the mindset, the thinking, and the attitude that everything was going perfectly, flawless, and joyful. The first impression was positive. Everything was mistake free or problem free; unfortunately, mistakes and problems are going to happen sooner or later. The second year determines if any mistakes and problems could be corrected to continue the classes, the career, the relationship, keeping the laptop.
If you have a great first year at something, then keep the momentum going in the second year and beyond because it's the second year that counts. Continuing innovating to be better and innovate infinitely.
Wisdom Gained: Everyone has the right to find happiness.
Excerpt: New happiness can be anything including hanging out with my friends more often, make new friends, meet new people, get a new job, learn a new hobby, read more books, travel, visit a new place, anything happiness goes.
After you read the Blog, go find happiness. Good luck and smile happily! *:)
Excerpt: The lesson of life I learned cosplaying is to never rush. Making a cosplay takes time. There is research, purchasing the materials including fabric, and labor. When I created my Edward Elric, I purchased art books to get pictures, researched for tips and suggestions on how to make the red jacket and black vest on the Internet, researched boots styles on the Internet, researched how to find a leathermaster to make the belt pad, asked co-workers where I get a custom made clasp, shopped around for a wig, and shopped on eBay for the white gloves. Lots of work to make the cosplay? Absolutely.
The same applies to my Syaoran and Hitsugaya cosplays. Never rush success. Never rush a goal. Goals and accomplishments take time. The Edward Elric cosplay took lots of free time after work and on weekends which debut at Japantown Anime Faire 2004. I have been receiving positive feedback XD
Complete a goal slowly and keep the goal in focus. It's a matter of time when the goal is accomplished :]
[My thanks to my Mom who sewed my Edward, Syaoran, and Hitsugaya cosplays XD]
Wisdom Gained: Take life one day at a time. Have fun, learn, and enjoy.
Excerpt: In Herbert Simon's writing "What We Know About The Creative Process", he said it takes 10 years and 50,000 chunks of knowledge to become an expert. To expand on the idea, it takes 18 years to become an adult. Don't rush success. Don't rush being an expert.
Wisdom Gained: If you talk the talk, you must stand by your talk.
Excerpt: Action speaks louder than words. Straightforward example: a couple loves each other and says, "I Love You." The couple must demonstrate, must show, and prove their love using action for "I Love You" to have meaning, to have creditability, to have faith, and to have sincerity. The common actions are hugs and kisses, gifts, love letters, and being together and sharing life.
Think about famous people using action. Dr. Martin Luther King's non-violent protests. Barry Bonds hitting home runs and chasing Hank Aaron's all time career home run record. Bill Gates founded Microsoft. Martha Stewart and her Martha Stewart Living business. Albert Einstein, Time Magazine's person of the century, contributions to science using action.
Today's school teaches student to behave quietly and learn from the textbooks. The famous people above found success learning outside the classroom and outside the textbooks.
Excerpt: If you want to receive later in life, then you must give first. Give first, receive later. Give something to receive something. Correct choice of attitude, wrong choice of words.
Do something to receive something is the better phase. Substitute give with do. The word do is a stronger word because it makes the person do it. It's like Nike's phase "Just Do It." If you want to receive something, just do it. Do first, receive later--not give first, receive later.
Wisdom Gained: Money is a way to help people, create action, and show appreciation.
Excerpt: *In my Dad's company, the company matched dollar for dollar up to a maximum (I forgot the maximum) to help the Hurricane Katrina relief efforts in September 2005. All donations for Hurricane Katrina regardless of taxable income are tax deductible for the 2005 tax year.
*In a Florida high school, a junior purchased 500 roses for his classmates on Valentine's Day. The junior saved his money since December and paid $900. Unfortunately, he was 100 roses short :-<
*A long time ago, Donald Trump was in Los Angeles to attend a function. His limo broke down. He was able to get a ride from a couple heading towards the function. Trump arrived at the function on time. In appreciation, Trump paid the couple's mortgage in full.
*Antonio Esfandiari, one of the youngest professional poker players gave $400,000 to his parents after winning his first million dollar championship poker event. Before playing poker, Esfandiari was a professional magician at private parties.
*A pregnant waitress in Virginia received a $973.65 tip from a couple they paid $1,000 for a $26.35 meal. The widow left the tip because she "didn't need it." The waitress was crying with excitement.
The above examples demonstrate there are people who know how to use $$$$$ to help people, create action, and show appreciation. These people really know how to use money $-))
Wisdom Gained: Fight the pain, the suffering, and the struggles to keep living.
Excerpt: If life is bad for us, why live life? Why live a life full of struggles and mishaps? Isn't life supposed to be good for everyone? Isn't life supposed to treat everyone fairly to a good life. Why do bad things happen to good people who try their hardest? When are the rewards coming?
Why do we sufferers of the bad side of life still live. The reason is to fight, fight, fight. Without the suffering, without the pain, we don't have a life. We live to fight and conquer these bad sides of our lives. We fight to live. Without the fight to win attitude, there is no point in living. Continue the fight. I am. When the day is bad, remember tomorrow is another day. When a job is loss, it may be a blessing in disguise. When the night calls for sleep, dream the victory. Good luck, everyone!
Excerpt: Obi-Wan: I suggest you try it again, Luke. That time, let go your conscious self . . . and act on instinct.
[Obi-Wan places helmet with blast shield on Luke.]
Luke: With the blast shield down, I can't even see. How am I supposed to fight?
Obi-Wan: Your eyes can deceive you. Don't trust them.
The scene is my all-time favorite scene. Why? For many of us, we are told to use our instincts or our gut feelings. Learn to trust gut feelings. Our instincts tend to be the correct choices.
When Obi-Wan said eyes can be deceiving, he is correct big time. Many people depend on their eyes too much. They fail to think carefully whether what is seen is the truth. To correct the error, they must think with their minds. See with their minds and the truth is exposed.
Excerpt: Everything we do in the present, right now, at this moment, and anything done today for the future time will tell. We are given the moments in the present and must be proactive in the moments to make the best choices. The ultimate judge is time. Time choose whether our actions today affects tomorrow in our favor, against our favor, or nobody's favor.
Excerpt: Live the present. Live the moment. For some of us, one moment in time-the present time-is going to last a lifetime and brings us to a higher level in life never dreamed of before. Don't think about the future consequences. Think about future consequences and nobody is going to move on. Create memories today . . . create a ton of memories today for the future. Use the present today, right now, for a bright future. Cherish the present days. Don't waste today.
Nobody knows the future. Nobody. Everyone knows the present. Today, we live the present and know what's going to at this time. If nobody knows the future, why worry about it? It could be good or bad. Never worry about tomorrow. Live today . . . live right now to the fullest. Life is more value when lived today with full mighty.
Wisdom Gained: Wait 24 hours for goods or services less than $100 and 48 hours for greater than $100 to avoid the urge to splurge.
Excerpt: The 24/48 rule is 24 hours and 48 hours. When the consumer has the urge to splurge, the 24/48 rule activates. The consumer must wait 24 hours to purchase an item less than $100.00 and 48 hours to purchase an item $100.00 and greater. The 24/48 rule dollar amount threshold is a judgment call. The rule works for me because the next day or two, I lose the urge to splurge. I think to myself, "Did I really need to buy it?"
Wisdom Gained: Do the little things and they add up in time.
Excerpt: One little thing is to Say Hi and Smile to co-workers, family, and friends. Doing Say Hi and Smile is an impression-an impression people remember. In my workplace, the people who Say Hi and Smile are the top workers, the top professionals who knows their line of work, have lots of knowledge and experience, and are open. (Well, most of them anyway. There are a few exceptions. Hee, hee.)
Say Hi and Smile can also be the little things that gets you the promotion, the job hiring, the contract, the sale, meeting new people and them remembering you, and the something special you always wanted. If there is competition for a job, I bet Say Hi and Smile is the little thing that makes a difference who gets the job. I'm sure the level of knowledge is the same for all the competitors; however, the Say Hi and Smile is the difference and whoever Say Hi and Smile, the person has a higher chance of getting the job. Good luck!
Excerpt: On the first day of the vacation, Steve drove around Hood Canal. He wanted to take the scenic route from the airport to Lilliwaup, Steve's home city. During the drive, I paid attention to the homes facing the waterfront. Most of the people I saw are in their retirement age, have middle class cars (in other words, no BMWs, Mercedes, and Lexuses) parked on their driveways, and wearing clothes that likely were purchased from Old Navy or Ross. These people didn't earn the money to buy these homes to live for retirement and/or for a vacation home overnight. It took years for these retirees to make money. Life is a marathon, not a sprint. These people won their marathons and are retired. It takes time to become successful. I should enjoy the marathon. That is the inspiration from the Washington Canada Vacation. *Hooray, hooray, hooray*
Wisdom Gained: When you in a jam, go back to the basics. Go remind yourself the basics which is what I'm doing :D :D :D
Excerpt: My cousins and I played Super Smash Brothers for the Nintendo Game Cube. I rarely played the game and I stink. When my cousins went back to the hotel, I practiced for two hours. I did the training mode, I re-read the instruction manual on basic movements and special movements for the Pikachu character. After the practice, I remembered many of the moves and basic strategies.
When you are in a jam, go back to the basics. Read some books, remember the successes, call people if needed, do something basic to remind you and/or to learn something new to get out of a jam-to solve the problem.
Here is a summary of the Wisdom Gained:
Never take anything and anyone for granted.
Trust my gut feeling.
I updated my daily top five rules for living.
Continue to live life finding what you want to do.
[Observe people who they are and not what we think they are.]
Remember to learn from you failures as well as your successes.
It takes patience to learn who a person is for long-term family, friend, business, and romantic relationships.
Do something else to take your mind off something you hate.
Meet new people and make new friends continuously.
It's OK to be alone.
You must earn what you want in life.
You are responsible for yourself.
Schools have summer vacations; life doesn't have summer vacations.
Age is just a number.
Have courage to say goodbye to anything precious.
First years, first impressions, first go-around, and first successes are equally important as second years, second impressions, second go-around, and second successes.
Everyone has the right to find happiness.
Be patient. Never rush.
Take life one day at a time. Have fun, learn, and enjoy.
If you talk the talk, you must stand by your talk.
Do something to receive something.
Money is a way to help people, create action, and show appreciation.
Fight the pain, the suffering, and the struggles to keep living.
Use your mind to see.
Time is the ultimate judge.
Live the present. Live the moment.
Wait 24 hours for goods or services less than $100 and 48 hours for greater than $100 to avoid the urge to splurge.
Do the little things and they add up in time.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
When you in a jam, go back to the basics. Go remind yourself the basics which is what I'm doing :D :D :D
Top 30 Most Memorable Moments
30 years on planet Earth. That's one way to say that I turned 30 years old in 2004. Good moments and bad moments define people. I have my share of good moments and bad moments. I got the idea of sharing my top 30 moments from ESPN's 25th Anniversary with their Top 25 Lists.
The reason I'm sharing my top 30 moments is because some people have experienced similar good and bad moments. It's all part of living and it defines who we are. I may be able to help some people realize that life is really not that bad. It's worth the time to find something you like yourself. It's easy to be depressed and feel bad when life doesn't go your way. Remembering the best and worst moments remind us that we're human. Everything is going to be okay.
Am I going to get personal? Yes. It's no different than a rant section, opinions, on-line journals, blogs, bulletin board systems, on-line diaries, and other personal webpages which gets really personal. Some people are more open personally and some people are less open personally. I'm being more open personally compared to when I post on the bulletin boards.
The following moments are not included in the top 30: got my first driver's license, graduated from San Jose State, graduated from high school, my first school dance, promoted to Second Lieutenant in R.O.T.C., gambled for the first time, received my first traffic ticket, my 18th birthday, my 21st birthday, and my first job. The reason these moments are not included is they were just another day. Nothing spectacular happened.
Here are the Top 30 Most Memorable Moments:
Update April 15, 2012: Fanime Con 2004 (2004). I realized in late December 2011 our lives is a collection of wisdom. We can't change our past. We can change our thoughts on our past. One thought I changed was the year 2004. I had thought 2004 was a bad year. I think back and 2004 was actually a good year. In particular, I had thought Fanime Con 2004 was a bad con. I was wrong. Fanime Con was actually a good con. The best activity, which is still my best activity as of now, was the Fullmetal Alchemist Midnight Madness Marathon.
I choose to cosplay Edward Elric, the main character, after episode eight. I have cosplayed eight characters at anime conventions since I started cosplaying. I want to thank my mom for making me all my costumes.
My number one moment is Fanime Con 2004.
Update April 3, 2005: On April 1, 2005, I was sorting a stacking of papers at work (yup, boring job, I know) and I was thinking about my Top 30 Moments. I thought about my Number 1 Moment. I said to myself that I really don't have a Number 1 Moment during my 30 years of life. I choose to take back my Number 1 Moment and save it for the real Number 1 Moment. Granted my Number 1 Moment is after my 30th birthday; however, I want the Number 1 Moment to be the best moment I feel proud I can tell anyone. I want to save the Number 1 Moment for my true and genuine Number 1 Moment no matter when it happens because it's going to happen. I'm working my butt off to earn my true Number 1 Moment.
My First Dream (Around 1978). Who can remember their first dream? Probably not many. My first dream was I was floating down the sky passing big and puffy white clouds. I gently landed next to a waterfall at the Meyerholz Elementary School playground. The waterfall was not a waterfall found at a forest; rather, it was like a slide in a playground. It wasn't made of metal. It was made of wood. The outside of the waterfall was made of perfectly squared pieces of wood with grooves along the outer pieces of the squares and stacked symmetrically to form the slide.
The water calmly flowed like a stream. I stepped on the water and slid down like sliding down a slide. As I slid down, I saw on my right a mountain with Chinese wise men wearing traditional Chinese clothing staring at me. When I landed softly without harm, I walked home. I lived 5 minutes away from school. I walked home not paying attention that I was wet. When I arrived home, I rang the doorbell. The front door opened. I went in.
On occasion, I think about my first dream. I wonder if those who remember their first dream had a dream similar to mine. Sometimes I think about my first dream when I'm in a stressful situation or when I'm bored and need to think of something.
The Next Rich Dad, Poor Dad (2002)? The first time I heard of Robert Kiyosaki was a late night infomercial. The infomercial was the only infomercial I watched from beginning to end. The information made perfect sense. L.M, a friend and former co-worker, introduced Kiyosaki with greater detailed. She told me about Kiyosaki's books, tapes, seminars, and the web page.
I went to Costco the same week and I saw Kiyosaki's first book Rich Dad, Poor Dad. I purchased the book, read the book, and became more aware about my financials and my future. I read books by Peter Lynch, learned how to read a financial statement, attended seminars, read more Kiyosaki books, and, in short, started to learn more about businesses and expand my skills and knowledge professionally and personally.
In 1999 when I was out of college, I never had a five year plan. Today, I have a five year plan. I want to innovate myself with knowledge and skills in technology, web pages, stock market, and whatever else I'm interested in learning. Also, I want to meet and know more people-expand my circle of friends, family, and acquaintances.
Ms. L.M., we do keep in touch from time to time and it's hard with our busy schedules. When I make my first million dollars, I'm going to make sure you are appreciated.
The Perfect Semester at San Jose State University (Fall 1996). How perfect was it? Read the following: classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays; missed only one day of classes; 3.64 semester Grade Point Average; no math classes; learned how to write at Economics Writing Workshop; mastered video game Area 51; flexible part time job; became an anime fan; learned to keep your present job while searching for another job (employers, it's not a secret); ate breakfast and lunch at Student Union for the first time (and I lost weight); browsed on the web for the first time; playing music while studying helped me; drink water to prevent getting sick; and the semester was not torture.
Ms. C.H. (1980). Ms. C.H. was my first friend and classmate in school. We met in Kindergarten at Sierra Elementary School. I remember one time we talked on the phone about Sesame Street and Cookie Monster. And I remember you invited me to your birthday party. When my Mom came to pick me up, I was nervous leaving the party I keep forgetting to say thank you. I don't know why I was nervous.
The Triple Play (1984-1988). G.I. Joe, Transformers, and MASK. If I was buying stocks in the 1980s, I bet Hasbro and Kenner were great companies to buy. (Kenner also made Star Wars in the early 1980s.) During the 1980s, my brother and I played G.I. Joe, Transformers, and MASK. We played on Saturdays and during the summers. Also, we watched the cartoons. We had a list of plots and titles and we took turns choosing which scenario to play and whether each of us played either the good guys or the bad guys. Our collection was not the biggest. There were some big name figures, robots, and accessories we never purchased or got for our Birthday and Christmas presents. I think, however, having enough toys for the three series was better than having all the toys for one series. There was a lot of variety.
www.innovateinfinitely.com Is Online (May 1, 2004). On June 2003, I choose to create a new web site with a new design to promote Innovate Infinitely. Everything I learned in the 30 years at work, in leisure, at San Jose State, reading books, and living life everyday can be summarized in two words-Innovate Infinitely. It took 10 months finding a web hosting company, learning how to register a domain name, how the Domain Name Servers work, and learning the basics of web pages and the Internet. The experience and journey were worth the adventure. I admit I have lots more to learn. www.innovateinfinitley.com is a start. I hope the people who visit my web site are satisfied and come back to visit again.
Innovate Infinitely Was Created (2000). There is no innovateinfinitely.com without Innovate Infinitely. Innovate Infinitely was created when I was driving to Japantown-San Jose. Initially, I needed a web page theme because my family, friends, and acquaintances' web pages have a theme. I wanted a never stop learning theme. Always find ways to be a better person. And when you accomplished something, find another way to improve it.
At a stop light, the words Innovate and Infinitely came to my mind. I said the words together, "Innovate Infinitely . . . Never Stop Innovating Life." Today, I'm innovating infinitely--always finding something new to learn, always improving what I know, always creating, and always becoming a better person professionally and personally.
What's My Major? Economics (Fall 1995). In Fall Semester 1995 at San Jose State University, my careerpath of becoming a math teacher was not going well. The preparation, volunteering, reading, and the people who helped guide me to become a math teacher were falling apart. I lost my desire to become a math teacher. I didn't know what to do. It was a realty check.
After asking for opinions from professors, classmates, and friends, the choice was made to switch my major from Mathematics to Economics and to switch my minor from Economics to Mathematics. Changing majors was the obvious and only choice. I was good at Mathematics, and I probably be a better thinker because math involved lots of thinking and logic; however, I didn't have the potential to be the best at Mathematics. At the time I was a student, the average student changed majors 3.2 times. I think it's higher today with more career choices.
I believe changing majors was the most important choice in my life. If I graduated with a Math degree and earned my teaching credential, then I probably quit being a math teacher in 5 years. At the time I was a Mathematics major, 50% of teachers quit the profession within 5 years.
Anime Expo 2003 (2003). Anime Expo 2003 was the perfect vacation. Great anime series released, no lines in the dealers room, registration was organized, rarely stayed in my hotel room, everyone had the anime enthusiasm, the scheduling was perfect (for me and planning lunch and dinner), music videos were great, terrific cosplayers, and I was within budget. The convention is currently my all-time favorite convention. Everything went perfect for me.
If anyone wanted to be introduced to anime and wanted to attend an anime convention for the first time, Anime Expo 2003 is the convention to attend. 2003 was a great year for anime. Anime Expo 2003 proved it.
Anime Expo 2001 (2001). Anime Expo 2001 was a great convention. Anime Expo 2001 is currently my second all-time favorite convention. I rented a car for the first time and my friend and I drove to an all Japanese arcade 30 minutes away from Long Beach.
The convention itself, however, was not the reason Anime Expo 2001 is Number 10 on my Top 30 Most Memorable Moments. The event immediately before Anime Expo 2001 was the reason. Through the first half of 2001, I had problems professionally and personally. The economy was in a recession. One night, I had trouble sleeping. Then I realized something. The professional and personal problems were beyond your control. Control what you can control and don't control what you can't control. What you can't control let it be. After the realization, I freed myself from all the worries which I should not have been worrying in the first place. Now that I was free and realized that everything is going to be O.K., the convention was going to be O.K. There were no problems, no worries, and the convention was more than O.K.
In summary, Anime Expo 2001 was one of my memorable moments because I learned to control what I can control and don't control what I can't control. I controlled my attitude and convince myself that it's a vacation, forget your worries, and have fun. I did have fun.
Unfortunately, there was one negative about the Anime Expo 2001 vacation. It was over budget.
First Job After College (1998). I'm not going to mention the company's name because the company is not worth writing home about. My brief tenure at the company was a positive negative. I learned something about bad companies. Bad companies exist with people and management who are unqualified at their positions. I wonder how these bad companies stay in business? Luck?
When I was in college, the career planning placement center and the career books I read taught students how to find a job, how to work well with others, get promoted, and look for opportunities in the company. Unfortunately, there was no training on how to identify bad companies.
Lesson to undergraduates and high school students: learn how to spot bad companies. You may think you never work in a bad company. There is always a good chance you work in a bad company. I worked in a bad company for my first job after college. If you work in a bad company, begin searching for a new job. If the company you work at is nothing, you are probably going nowhere. There are good companies to work for with good people and great opportunities. Don't believe in so-called job experts. Believe in friends and family with experience in the workplace and read the Dilbert comic strip.
Around the State of California in 90 Days (1995). My family and I visited Raging Waters Theme Park in San Jose, Yosemite National Park, Santa Barbara, Disneyland, and went River Rafting in Central California near Sacramento. Summer 1995 was a fun summer. I don't think any college student trade an internship or part-time job for a summer vacation around California in 90 days. Those going to Yosemite National Park next summer, bring lots of water, comfortable clothes and shoes, and the best flashlights money can buy. There is no price for safety.
1997, The Year of the Role Playing Game (RPG) (1997). If anyone wrote a book on the fundamentals of a RPG group, look for my friends and I in the book. 1997 was the perfect year for RPG. Everyone was in San Jose, everyone adjusted their college and work schedules, everyone participated in the action, and the plots were terrific. Overall, it was a year my friends and I never forget.
I was introduced to Advanced Dungeon & Dragons (AD&D) in 1997. I met some new RPGers through my friends. When some of us had to leave San Jose, the ones remaining participated in an AD&D campaign taking place in late 1997 and finishing in early 1998.
To Crush and Be Crushed (1981). I was in 1st grade when I had a crush on someone and someone had a crush on me. The person I had a crush on sat on my left. She and I sat at the second to the last row. There was nobody sitting on my right. Her first name is M.(no last name initial). She had short, bright, and brown hair. I remember the pink overalls she wore. I never talked to her. And she never talked to me. I never started a conversation. Was I that scared or shy?
The person who had a crush on me was in my class. Her name was J.(no last name initial). She had long, blond hair. She wore a dark purple dress, and I think she wore the dress everyday because the dress was my favorite. During lunch time, she wanted to kiss me. I remember the kids in the playground trying to pin me to the ground so she could kiss me. When the kids attempted to catch me, I made a stupid move. I went up the slide, slid down, and the kids were waiting for me at the bottom. Why I went up the slide remained a mystery to me? I was successfully pined down. Then I blank out. I don't remember if J.(no last name initial) kissed me or I successfully escaped.
When lunch time was over, I told the teacher that J.(no last name initial) was bothering me. When J.(no last name initial) entered the classroom, she smiled at me. The teacher told J.(no last name initial) to leave me alone. After I told the teacher, she stopped liking me because she stopped talking to me and she found someone else she liked.
A False Start (Fall Semester 1992 and Spring Semester 1993). I was a freshman at San Jose State University in Fall 1992 and Spring 1993. The semesters were easy: little homework, easy instructors, content not difficult to understand, and some classes I already knew the content.
In Fall Semester 1993, I thought it was going to be the same as my first year. Learn quickly, easy instructors, have time for fun, and breeze through college. I was wrong big time. The semester was the worst semester ever. The homework, essays, and tests were hard. I took a computer programming course. I took BASIC in junior high school and did well so I thought learning C++ was easy to learn. Bad thinking. I struggled with C++ and barley passed.
Was I really smart? I was dumb--dumb to realize that the classes I took in my first year were so easy I created a false impression college was easy which was not easy. I was an example of a student who selected the easy courses in their first year and created a false impression that college courses were not difficult at all.
Lesson learned: the first year is always easy and it doesn't get any easier after the first year.
Lunch Hour Run (1982-1983). I was in 3rd grade at Meriholz Elementary School. Every Wednesday lunch hour, the school has a running program where students run around the grass field. I participated every Wednesday running one mile. Weekly, the teacher coordinator created a map of the world and took the top runners, added the miles ran, and charted how far the top runners ran around the world starting from the school. I felt really cool my name was on the top runners list. Thanks to the running, I became a fast runner. I was not a Carl Lewis or Michael Johnson runner; however, I was somebody who could chase a baby carriage going down a stairway out of control and saving the baby.
In The Retail Business (1996-1997). My first undergraduate job outside college was at Blockbuster Video at Westgate Mall in San Jose. What I learned at Blockbuster Video applied to my future jobs. Being good is smart, nobody likes jerks, consumers buy good products at low prices, dumb customers exists, dumb workers exists, the workers are really in charge, the executives are not really in charge, friendly management exists, there are good days and there are bad days, customer service is one important factor and not the important factor in a successful business, and the best companies always innovate.
I like to make a suggestion to the educators in the pubic school system. I believe students should work a semester in retail to graduate high school. The students have the opportunity to learn something outside the classroom, learn how to deal with people, learn business, learn the workplace, and earn money. The students work 10-20 hours a week for a semester, or make students entering their senior year work in retail during the summer to earn high school credit. No homework should be assigned and no tests. The students remember what they learn on the job because the experience helps them for their future jobs.
Likewise to parents. Children in high school should get a part time job in retail. Isn't it better for your children to work part time rather than sit at home and watch TV or play video games?
Meet Mr. J.F. (1983-1984). My fourth grade school year was at a new school. Also, I attended a public school for the first time. I met Mr. J.F. He was in my class. He was the most popular fourth grader. He was smart, athletic, and was a leader among the boys. What impressed me about Mr. J.F. was that he treated everyone equally. I was not smart, terrible in athletics (but a fast runner), and was the last person picked in team P.E. sports. Mr. J.F. made school comfortable for me. He made sure everyone recognized me, taught me how to play football, and made sure everyone treated me like one of the boys.
Mr. J.F., I hope you are doing O.K. I never said thank you for what you did in fourth grade. Thank you. You were a friend to me.
The 1987 Depression (1987). I was in 7th grade when I became depressed. It was the first time I heard about the word. Nothing went my way in 7th grade. The teachers stink, my classes were boring, and I really didn't have any friends that school year. I was a person nobody wanted to be with, and thinking about it now, I'm glad nobody did. I was the biggest jerk nobody else knew, and anyone who knew didn't want to be with me.
I remember one night I was lying on my bed. Relatives visited my house and the kids went to Bullwinkles to play video games. Bullwinkles was like a Chuck E. Cheese with pizza, video games, and skeet-ball. I didn't want to go. Actually, I did. I wanted the family to give me more attention by insisting me to go. I probably declined anyways.
Like many depressions, there was an end. During the last months of my 7th grade, I had a new math teacher, meet some new friends, and played basketball during lunchtime.
My brother, cousin, and I were playing with the other kids in and around the train. Somehow, someone created some game and I was appointed the Captain. Captain?!? What did that word mean? For the rest of the day, the kids called me Captain. When there were problems around the train, the other kids called me, "Captain, there is a fire. Come take a look." And I took a look. Everywhere throughout the train, the kids called me to investigate problems around the train. My brother and cousin followed me like they were my lieutenants. All the kids looked up to me. I was the center of attention.
A Captain made sure everything works correctly. A Captain portrayed himself and herself as dependable among his or her subordinates, co-workers, team, personnel, etc. A Captain never accepted failures. A Captain brought the best out of his or her people. And a Captain accepted the role as an additional subordinate, co-worker, team member, personnel, etc.
Collecting Baseball Cards (1988-1992). In the end of 1988, I needed a new hobby. I was still playing video games, but I didn't play everyday. I was not a diehard video game fan. My cousin started to collect baseball cards in 1987. Why not give it a try? My first rookie card I purchased was a 1982 Donruss Cal Ripken, Jr. Pretty good choice.
I attended baseball card conventions, opened baseball card packs, and took great care of my expensive cards. I was really into the sport of baseball. I remember reading the baseball scores, memorizing the best players of today and yesterday, reading baseball card magazines, and watching baseball on TV and listening to baseball on the radio. I was a really dedicated baseball card collector and fan. And during the summers, my brother and I gathered our friends and play baseball.
What got me out of baseball card collecting was that there were too much baseball cards in the market. Baseball card values were lowered because the baseball card manufactures printed too many cards. For a high school student with a high school allowance, baseball card collecting was getting expensive.
I officially ended my baseball card collecting in 1992 and I stopped following baseball as a dedicated baseball fan in 1995. Today, I still have my best rookie cards and baseball card singles.
Raymond Mar's First Girlfriend (1988). I was in 8th grade and I met her during the Christmas dance. I was sitting on the sidelines. I saw a girl sitting near me. I went up to her and asked her to dance. She accepted. It was a slow dance. I found her again and asked her for the last slow dance. She accepted. I never even asked her name. The following school days I learned her name was M.M. and she was in 7th grade.
What I'm about to say is very, very embarrassing and I'm not going to B.S. I'm blaming my lack of experience and lack of knowledge of being on how to treat a girl. For starters, I never kissed her. I don't know what the heck I was thinking. Also, she gave me clues and signs for us to be alone outside of school. She was very clear she wanted to do something with me alone like a couple. I didn't understand the clues because I didn't have the knowledge that she wanted to do something with me. I was a dummy big time.
O.K. I must have done something correctly. I did call her and we talked about lots of stuff. Was that the only thing I did right? Oh, boy. I did have a lot to learn back then. As expected, she broke up with me one month later. When I tell my friends that I had a girlfriend in junior high, they were surprised. As society becomes more aware of loving relationships on the media and entertainment, I wonder if more junior high students are experiencing their first relationships?
The Miracle Final (1996). Spring Semester 1996. Religion 190-Religion in America. How appropriate. A miracle with religious influence. There was divine intervention when I took the final.
The professor gave the students eight questions for the final. Out of the eight questions, six appeared on the final. Out of the six questions on the final, the students must answer four.
On the night before the final, I researched the six easiest questions using the textbooks and the lecture notes. I admit the lecture notes were not good. As I researched, I wrote down the answers I write down on the final if the questions appeared on the final. When the answers were written down, I went to sleep.
The next morning, I woke up really early. I dressed, ate breakfast, and drove to San Jose State. When I arrived at San Jose State, I went to the main library to memorize the answers to the questions. With the final at 6:00 P.M., I memorized all morning, took a small lunch break at the Student Union, and memorized all afternoon. I knew everything was going to be O.K. The religion class was a General Education class and didn't affect my major Grade Point Average. Who said cramming was bad? :-)
My final grade in the Religion in America class was a B+. It was a miracle. The reason why I included The Miracle Final is because some successful people somehow completed the presentations, speeches, assignments, projects, term papers, proposals, contracts, etc. at the last minute, and were successful. I guess these people thrive on the pressure of last minute preparation. In my case, I crammed on the day of the final and I was successful.
Who says a person needs to prepare early to become successful? There are people who prepare at the last minute and become successful. The Miracle Final proved to me that some people don't have to prepare early to accomplish something.
Raymond Mar Officially Becomes An Anime Fan (1996). The first anime series I watched were Starblazers, Robotech, and Voltron. In 1996, however, I became an official anime fan watching Sailor Moon on TV and purchasing my first anime series. The first anime series I purchased was the first season of Ranma ½. The place I purchased was at a comic book store going out of business. The owner was selling the VHS tapes at 33% off retail. Not bad for my first anime purchase.
Raymond Mar's First Touchdown (1985). I was in 5th grade. During recess and lunch, the boys played football. I didn't know how to play football. Nobody taught me the rules. I learned as I play similar to learning on the job. My first touchdown took place when I recovered a fumble. The opposing team dropped the ball. I didn't know what a fumble was. Someone yelled, "Pick up the ball." I picked up the ball and ran to the end zone and scored my first touchdown. The person who yelled congratulated me for scoring.
I continue to score touchdowns for the remainder of fifth grade, junior high, and high school. Too bad I didn't join the high school football team. I could have been a great wide receiver.
Chess Anyone (1988)? In my freshmen year in high school, I joined the Chess Club. During the lunch period, I hang out in the chess room. Many of my junior high students needed a place to hang out. Somehow, we ended up in the chess club. I learned how to play chess and tandem chess.
The Chess Club is in the top 30 because I met some new friends, and some of them I hang out with after school and during the summers. The members were not all nerds and geeks. Some of the members were popular in campus with lots of friends, some played sports, and some had romantic relationships.
A lot happened in the club. For 35 minutes a day, I hang out with my friends, eat lunch, played chess, and have fun. Sometimes, some of us play football at the grass field. And sometimes, we just eat lunch outside the club because we were bored with chess.
Raymond Mar Did It On eBay (2002). eBay kicks butt. I wished I joined eBay a long time ago. Forget the bad reputation on the media and forget about the security problems on the news. eBay is a great place to find bargains and sell junk. I sold lots of junk to make space in my house. I plan to sell more junk. My junk may be someone's treasure.
Raymond Mar On Stage (1994). I was an extra or super at the San Jose Cleveland Ballet production of Giselle. I was a guard during the first act and all I did was dress up and stand at one place with a spear on my right hand. Before curtain call, I learned how to play poker with the stage crew beyond five card draw Twos and Jokers wild. And I saw the San Jose Sharks hockey games when the San Jose Sharks were in the playoffs for the first time.
The San Francisco 49ers Win Super Bowl XVIII (1985). I didn't know how to play football when I was a kid. Nobody taught me the rules. I had to learn myself. When watching football, however, just by hearing people talk about the San Francisco 49ers, just by watching the sports, and just by looking at the sports section, I was convinced to become a 49ers fan.
I really didn't know all of the 49ers players. Nobody told me the players on the 49ers. One name was mentioned every 49ers game and on the media. As I think today, when I was a young 49er fan, all I needed was to remember one name and one name only: Joe Montana. If I was at a sports party and the 49ers were playing, all I had to convince the grown-ups was to say Joe Montana, and the grown-ups believe I was a 49er fan.
Lesson to the fathers who are football fans: teach your kids football. It doesn't matter if your kids are boys or girls. Most of my female cousins under the age of 12 understand the rules of football.
When Super Bowl XVIII was played at Stanford University between the 49ers and the Miami Dolphins, I saw a championship team. The 49ers were an example of teamwork--a team such that every person wanted to win the championship. For a team to win a championship, everyone must have the focus, the desire, the knowledge, the motivation, the self-confidence, the enthusiasm, and the teamwork to win the big prize. If one person on the team doesn't have the championship mentality, then the team is not going to win the championship.
The 1984-1985 San Francisco 49ers is one of the best examples of a team playing as a team and winning a championship together. When I was a kid, I dreamed of being on a team just like the 49ers won Super Bowl XVIII. I want to learn and experience being on a winning team. Today, when I watch playoff games on TV, I can determine which team is going to win, and 99.9% of the time, the winning team is the team that plays as a championship team.
Raymond Mar's Ex-Boss Released (2002). Dilbert fans know that the boss is clueless with the engineering department, and his workers jokes around and goof-off. In today's workplace, the Dilbert comics do a great job representing today's workplace. Don't get the wrong idea. There are great bosses. It's the bad bosses that make workers wonder, "How did he (or she) get the promotion?"
In my years in the workplace, one reason the bad worker gets the promotion to management is because he or she is the least competent worker in the department. Please let me explain. The boss doesn't do the assignments or functions of the department; rather, the boss sits on a chair at the desk, make sure the workers do their work, hear complaints, conduct boring meetings, and sign papers out. How hard is that? In other words, the lease competent worker received the promotion because he or she fits the chair.
In my case, the reason my ex-boss was released was more than incompetence. It was doing nothing. My ex-boss did nothing, nobody knew what my ex-boss did, I didn't know what my ex-boss did, and my ex-boss created nothing new for the department.
Lesson learned: have nothing, do nothing, get nothing, be nothing, and people treat you like nothing.
That's my top 30 moments. Maybe when I reach 40 years old, my top 40 moments are 40 times better. Or maybe when I reach 60 years old, my moments are 60 times better. I'm looking forward to add wearing a costume at an anime convention, purchasing my first laptop, win a championship of some sorts, receive a big promotion, and get hired in the technology industry as memorable moments when I reach 40 years old.